Question Summary:
Since in Islam there is no concept of boyfriends so what should a girl do who had a boyfriend and also had physical relation with him?

Question Detail:

i want to know that since in islam there is no concept of boyfriends so what should a girl do who had a boyfriend and also had physical relation with him??? she didnt have much knowledge about islam but now she wants to become a true muslimshe now wants to get married to avoid further gunaah in an islamic way and wants to marry an islamic person?????but since her boyfriend is not a namazi and he is irregular about his  friday prayers so what should she do???they both are in a relation for 5 yearsshould she leave her boyfriend or should she marry him?what does shariah say about this?she has spoken to her boyfrnd n he says that he will become islamic once his querries regarding quran n hadees is answered coz he cannot understand the authenthicity of hadees and all the translations of quran are explained on the basis of hadeeshe has said that how is bukhari considered to be authentic hadees?should the girl marry him or leave him?how should the girl decide and choose a groom for herself according to Shariah?

Answer :

In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.
As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.
We are happy to know that you want to live a virtuous life and abstain from sins. As long as a person is alive, the doors of repentance are open. Allah ta'ala has forbidden men and women from casting gazes at members of the opposite gender who are outside of one's family. A relationship with someone outside of wedlock is undoubtedly impermissible. You should sincerely repent to Allah ta'ala and break all connections with the man you had unlawful relations with. Now that you want to marry a man the lawful way, request a member of your family, or a trustworthy female friend to find a suitable match for you.
If you want to live a religious life and abstain from sins, you should marry a man who has the same agenda of living a religious life. Marrying someone who is not religious can cause further complications in your life. We make Dua that Allah makes the situation easy, and keeps you away from sins.
And Allah Ta’āla Knows Best
Zakariya Memon
Student Darul Iftaa
Chatham, Canada 
Checked and Approved by,
Mufti Ebrahim Desai.
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