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1. Salam  my husbands 18 year old nephew lives in my home with me 32 years old my 3 kids underage 8 and my husband. my husband leaves his nephew home alone with me and my kids throught half the night when he is out visiting friends. his nephew is at home alone with me at times when im home with my 4 year old daughter too it this jaiz?
2. my husband also insists on letting his nephew freely enter my bedroom when i has asked to keep my bedroom private and to not allow him in is this ok?
3. my husband often urinates in the bath before he baths what is the islamic presective on this?
4. I have told my husband that i can not be on his nephews beck and call but i have been told that i need to cook and clean for him wash his clothes and undergarments - if i dont have his food ready for a certain time of the day he has told me im free to take my kids and leave because his nephew is his main responsibility
5. my husband when angery does not try to clam his anger down what can i read on him when in a rage. i try to give him water etc to drink but he deliberately wont take it cause he doesnt want his anger to go he breaks things and screams and shouts and also gets violent please help what should i read  jazak allah khair

Answer :

Muhtaram ,
In the name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful
Assalaamu `alaykum waRahmatullahi Wabarakatoh
Your husband's nephew is not a mahram to you. It is not permissible for your husband to leave his nephew alone with you in the house nor to allow him in your bedroom. We advise that you educate your husband with regards to this using wisdom and politeness. Alternatively you may speak to some family member who is learned in Islamic matters that may convince him without using your name.
If the water in the bathroom is flowing then it will be permissible to urinate there. However, taqwa demands that he abstains from such a practice.
You may recite the following dua in abundance.

رَبَّنَا هَبْ لَنَا مِنْ أَزْوَاجِنَا وَذُرِّيَّاتِنَا قُرَّةَ أَعْيُنٍ
rabbana hab lana min azwajina wathurriyyatina qurrata aAAyunin


And Allah knows best
Wassalam
Imran Hatia
Darul Iftaa, Madrassah In'aamiyyah