Question Summary:
My wife did not express her past history before marriage. What should I do?

Question Detail:

My wife is an honest lady and loyal to me. She has all the qualities of a good wife. She just made a mostake that she told me her past to me. She was proposed by her cousin but he was not sincere. She is not a person who couls express herself. She told her past to me in such a waty that it has now been a woung for our happy life. Now she said that she is saying that she is was not intereted with her cousine and it was a teenager attraction only.
My problem is that I am not accepting her arguments and continuously torturing myself and off course her as well.

Answer :

In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.
As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.
 
There are a few points that you should take into consideration:
As human beings, we all have our weaknesses and shortcomings. No one is free from any faults. Allah Ta’āla states in the Qur`an:
"خلق الانسان ضعيفا"[1]
"man has been created weak"
You also state that you have a good wife and she is loyal to you. You are also aware that she is a human being like you. Just as you have a past, she also has a past. What is the point of focusing on her past and ruining the present? Why not focus on the fact that she is virtuous and loyal to you? What if she picks on your past and starts resenting you?  
You should ponder and reflect over these points and hopefully that will help you exercise restraint and patience.
  
And Allah Ta’āla Knows Best
AbdulMannan Nizami
Student Darul Iftaa
Chicago, USA
Checked and Approved by,
Mufti Ebrahim Desai.
www.daruliftaa.net