Question Summary:
My husband ignores my needs including my conjugal rights. What can I do?

Question Detail:

I am a 52 yr old muslim lady practising muslim .My husband had an affair with a lady he used to take alcohol .It was an arranged marriage I was shocked to see all these but I don't want to hurt my sick parents.Iused to pray tahajud prayers I got 2 kids also .i tried my best to.raise them in a islamic way my knowledge was limited.My husband used to hit me badly if I say something. My parents away no sisters for me I was left alone with no one to talk or to share my feelings now my daughter got married she is a practising muslim my son is a very bad person he is 25 years old not talking to us no contact with us not married it is another story Now my husband started praying I think he stopped taking alcohol stopped beating me but I feel still he got some affair with ladies not sure because I found he got a house he is staying in hotel not in the night in the office hours I don't know If I ask he gets angry he is not transparent he is not giving me anything what a wife wants even conjugal relations. All these things made me angry with him. What should i do?

Answer :

In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.
As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.
 
It seems that your husband is an elderly person. We suggest that you request an elderly member of his family to speak with him about his attitude.
 
If the problem cannot be solved within the family then you should refer the matter to your local Imam. To remove any discomfort both of you should first present your case individually to the Imam on separate occasions. Subsequently, both of you should meet with the Imam together and discuss the matter.
 
 
 
And Allah Ta’āla Knows Best
Saeed Ahmed Golaub
Jamaica
Student Darul Iftaa
 
Checked and Approved
Mufti Ebrahim Desai
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