Question Summary:
Is a name giving ceremony permissible? Can I name my daughter the same name of my wife?

Question Detail:

1) My wife will soon be giving birth inshallah to our first child.  This is obviously a very happy and joyous occasion for our family.  It has always been a tradition in my family to have a specific day set aside to invite the close relatives to attend a “name giving” ceremony for the newborn child.  Is a ‘name giving’ ceremony allowed or encouraged in Islam? Assuming it is not allowed, what will be the kindest and most polite way for me to explain to my beloved parents & close family members that I cannot keep a ‘name giving’ ceremony.  

2) My wife’s name is Mariam.  If we are blessed with a daughter is it allowed or recommended to name the child the same name as her mother and call her Mariam also?

Answer :

In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.
As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.

We make dua Almighty Allah grants you a pious, healthy, obedient and beautiful child.  Aameen.    
Shari’ah does not prohibit us from expressing happiness during joyous occasions.  If one expresses happiness or takes part in a custom which is within the parameters of Shari’ah, then it will perfectly permissible.

A ‘name giving’ ceremony will be permissible[i] if the following principles are adhered to:
1)     There must not be any intermingling of the opposite genders.
2)     The get-together should be free of all sin like music, movie-making and other impermissible acts.
3)     One should not believe this practice to be a sunnah or a compulsory act of Deen.[ii]
4)     There should not be persistence for it to transpire to such an extent that if somebody who is unable to attend is scolded or rebuked.  If people are blameworthy and thought ill of for not attending such a gathering, then such gatherings should not take place.[iii]      
Gathering people on a specific date is for convenience.  Specifying dates will be problematic when it is done to acts of worship which are free of such specification.[iv]    

However, as majority of such customs fail to meet the criteria and in most instances the laws of Shari’ah are violated, one should abstain from having a name giving ceremony.  Many people will regard this to be from amongst the laws of aqeeqah.  Hence these practices should be shunned altogether.[v]  
The practice of the Sahabah (may Allah be pleased with them) on such occasions was to bring the new born child in the presence of the Prophet (Salutations and peace be upon him).  Imam Bukhari reports that Abu Musa al-Ash’ari (May Allah be pleased with him) was blessed with a boy.  He brought the child to the Prophet (Salutations and peace be upon him).  The Prophet named the boy Ibrahim and carried out tahneek (placing of a sweet substance on the palate).  Thereafter, he made dua on behalf of the child.[vi]
Imam Nawawi (may Allah be pleased with him) states that it is mustahab to take a new born child to the pious and gain their blessings and prayers for the baby.[vii]  Instead of having a name giving ceremony, you should consider taking your new born child to the pious and gain their prayers and blessings for your child. 
The objective of names is to help differentiate and distinguish between people.  By having two people with identical names under one roof will cause confusion in the smallest of errands.  There will be confusion in the letters received as to who exactly is the addressee.  Phone calls for one of the two will always puzzle the one receiving the call.  Dental appointments, optician’s appointments and the like can be easily misunderstood.  Although it will be permissible to keep the name of the child and mother the same, it is not advisable. [viii] 
And Allah Ta’āla Knows Best
Mawlana Faraz Ibn Adam,
Student Darul Iftaa
UK
 
Checked and Approved by,
Mufti Ebrahim Desai.
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