Question Summary:
i would like to know about how often does a man need to go to his in laws , and how often does a man have allow his wife to go to her family , also how often does a wife have to go to her husbands family

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i would like to know about how often does a man need to go to his in laws , and how often does a man have allow his wife to go to her family , also how often does a wife have to go to her  husbands family

Answer :

In the name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful
Assalaamu `alaykum waRahmatullahi Wabarakatoh
The issue of visiting ones in laws is a matter to be mutually agreed between husband and wife. The husband and wife should consider each others feelings and accordingly resolve the frequency of the visits. At times certain happenings do occur which requires the couple to visit the in laws more often. Therefore, this is an issue of mutual resolve and understanding. The husband should consider this issue in a manner that will enhance the love and understanding of the couple and bear in mind the best interest of the relationship. He should apply wisdom and diplomacy in making his decision, as lack of wisdom and diplomacy could jeopardize the marriage.
And Allah knows best
Wassalam
Muhammed Zakariyya Desai,
Darul Iftaa, Madrassah In'aamiyyah