Question Summary:
Istikhara for marriage Question Detail:
Asalamwalaykum , I have been praying istakhara for marriage and would like some guidance on interpreting my dreams. 1. First istakhara was made in Ramadan my dream showed me I was on my honey moon with this man who was my husband , he was wearing a blue top with blue jeans. It shows we were on a tour guide and then got on a boat with our tour , the tour guide told us to make sadqa boxes which we were then put in the sea for the fishes. Overall I got positive feelings from this dream. 2. This was done the day after the first istakhara , therefore was in Ramadan aswell. In this dream I was in a honey farm , there were bee hives on trees which then the bee hives fell , bees starting coming out of the hives and I got scared that they were going to attack me so I tried to hide but alhumdulilah instead of the bees coming towards me they went the other way. I then started taking the honey combs out of the hives and starting eating the honey directly from the honey combs. 3. This dream I had after Ramadan , I had a dream it was my wedding day , I was wearing a white dress , me and my family were getting ready to go to the wedding venue ( the wedding venue is a venue were a lot of ppl we know get married in ) we reach the venue and a man who is suppose to be my husband and his family are there , I cannot see this mans face, this man is wearing white , the venue then changes and we end up in another popular wedding venue we’re a lot of ppl I know get married in , I see my mum lighting up candles and putting them in the fountain, the dress I see myself wearing then becomes gold and cream and my husbands clothes become gold and cream too . Also in my dream there are two payments of £100 and £ 101 that need to be paid for my wedding , my sister and my cousin who are younger then me and are still students pay it for me. Overall I got a very positive feeling from this dream and in my dream I see my husband talking to me and smiling at me but his face is blurred . 4. I had this dream recently, it was a dream in a dream. In this dream I see myself having a istakhara dream showing that I should marry my mums cousins son , I see my self waking up from that dream and then see myself taking to my mum and my mum telling me she had a dream about the same person. I tell my mum I had a istakhara dream that I should marry this person and she’s shocked to hear that but won’t tell me what her dream was , she then goes on Facebook to show me a pic of him and we carry on talking and then she agrees to tell me her dream , when she’s about to tell me her dream about him the front door knocks and my dream ends . What do these dreams mean and what should I do next ?
Answer :
Answer:
In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.
As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.
In your query you state that you have been making istikhara for marriage but you did not state if the man in reference proposed to you.
If he did propose to you and you made the istikhara with a balanced frame of mind, then there are positive indications in the dreams.
If you have any genuine reservations, you should continue the istikhara and also consult (make mashura) appropriate people.
If your mind was already made up to marry the person, and your mind was not balanced in the istikhara, then it is possible the dreams are a reflection of your mind and feelings and not a response to the istikhara.[i]
And Allah Ta’āla Knows Best
Mudassir Benish
Student - Darul Iftaa
Houston, TX, U.S.A
Checked and Approved by,
Mufti Ebrahim Desai.
16-11-1440| 19-07-2019
الفتح الرباني لترتيب مسند الإمام أحمد بن حنبل الشيباني (5/ 53) [i]
(قال الشوكانى) فلا ينبغى أن يعتمد على انشراح كان له فيه هوى قبل الاستخارة، بل ينبغى للمستخير ترك اختياره رأسا والا فلا يكون مستخيرًا لله، بل يكون مستخيرًا لهواه وقد يكون غير صادق فى طلب الخيرة وفى التبرّى من العلم والقدرة واثباتهما لله تعالى، فاذا صدق فى ذلك تبرأ من الحول والقوة ومن اختياره لنفسه
الموسوعة الفقهية الكويتية (3/ 243)
يَنْبَغِي أَنْ يَكُونَ الْمُسْتَخِيرُ خَالِيَ الذِّهْنِ، غَيْرَ عَازِمٍ عَلَى أَمْرٍ مُعَيَّنٍ، فَقَوْلُهُ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ فِي الْحَدِيثِ: " إِذَا هَمَّ " يُشِيرُ إِلَى أَنَّ الاِسْتِخَارَةَ تَكُونُ عِنْدَ أَوَّل مَا يَرِدُ عَلَى الْقَلْبِ، فَيَظْهَرُ لَهُ بِبَرَكَةِ الصَّلاَةِ وَالدُّعَاءِ مَا هُوَ الْخَيْرُ، بِخِلاَفِ مَا إِذَا تَمَكَّنَ الأْمْرُ عِنْدَهُ، وَقَوِيَتْ فِيهِ عَزِيمَتُهُ وَإِرَادَتُهُ، فَإِنَّهُ يَصِيرُ إِلَيْهِ مَيْلٌ وَحُبٌّ، فَيَخْشَى أَنْ يَخْفَى عَنْهُ الرَّشَادُ؛ لِغَلَبَةِ مَيْلِهِ إِلَى مَا عَزَمَ عَلَيْهِ.
الموسوعة الفقهية الكويتية (3/ 246)
اتَّفَقَ فُقَهَاءُ الْمَذَاهِبِ الأْرْبَعَةِ عَلَى أَنَّ عَلاَمَاتِ الْقَبُول فِي الاِسْتِخَارَةِ انْشِرَاحُ الصَّدْرِ، لِقَوْل الرَّسُول صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ فِي الْحَدِيثِ الْمُتَقَدِّمِ فِي (فِقْرَةِ 20) : " ثُمَّ اُنْظُرْ إِلَى الَّذِي سَبَقَ إِلَى قَلْبِكَ فَإِنَّ الْخَيْرَ فِيهِ " أَيْ فَيَمْضِي إِلَى مَا انْشَرَحَ بِهِ صَدْرُهُ وشَرْحُ الصَّدْرِ: عِبَارَةٌ عَنْ مَيْل الإِْنْسَانِ وَحُبِّهِ لِلشَّيْءِ مِنْ غَيْرِ هَوًى لِلنَّفْسِ، أَوْ مَيْلٍ مَصْحُوبٍ بِغَرَضٍ
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