Question Summary:
Is it wrong to pray for someone you love?

Question Detail:

Actually this question was asked by one of my friend regarding is It wrong to pray for someone you love..

Answer :

In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.

As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.

Respected Sister in Islam.

The person in reference has inculcated a deep feeling of love for the person due to the close relationship they had. However, her expectation of reciprocation of love did not get fulfilled. Hence, she refers to her feelings of love as one-sided and unfulfilled.

We understand the pain of such a feeling. However, that is the consequences of her trespassing the limits of Shariah and giving her heart and love to a person out of marriage. One of the reasons Shariah prohibits love out of marriage is to protect one from the painful situation of the love not being fulfilled and one being merely used and dumped. A person should maintain his/her dignity and save himself/herself from such pain and humiliation.

The person in reference should be advised that love, infatuation etc. inculcated and developed for the stranger was not there before. Whatever is inculcated and developed can be removed. The person she loved has decided to marry someone else. She should come to terms with that and focus on Taqdeer. That person was not destined for her. She should submit to Taqdeer and stop thinking of that person. She should not even make dua for the person or for the love of that person. To make such a dua is also not permissible.

Just as her love for the person developed gradually, she will gradually forget him. When she experiences withdrawals of that love, she should think that it is the consequences of her trespassing Shariah. If she would have not trespassed Shariah, she would have safeguarded from such pain. At that time recite Istighfaar and ponder on the beauty of Shariah and resolve never to make such a mistake in future. She should make dua to Allah to grant her a most suitable partner. She should also reflect on the following verse of Quran:

فعسى أن تكرهوا شيئا ويجعل الله فيه خيرا كثيرا

“Perhaps you may dislike something but Allah Taala has put a lot of good in it for you” [Al-Nisa:19]

Probably Allah saved her from something she does not know. Our Joys and happiness are according to our limited knowledge. We are the slaves of Allah. His knowledge is perfect. His love for us is true and pure. Attach yourself to the true love of Allah and ask Allah to grant whatever He knows is best according to His infinite knowledge.

May Allah alleviate the sister from all pains and grant her peace and happiness. Ameen.

And Allah Ta’āla Knows Best

Anas Sharieff Qasmi.

Student Darul Iftaa

Hyderabad, India.

Checked and Approved by,
Mufti Ebrahim Desai.