Question Summary:
Is it necessary to reveal my defect to my potential spouse?

Question Detail:

, I regularly wear a topi with my attire almost everywhere I go. And I would like to continue the same when I go to see a prospective spouse-i.e. dress the way I normally do in a topi , kurta or jubbah.  However my problem is that I have lost quite a bit of hair and I don’t want it to seem as if I am wearing the topi to hide my balding.  So I was wondering what approach I should take.  On one hand, I want to maintain my regular appearance and maintain the sunnah attire-but on the other hand I also don’t want to cause any misconceptions or hide anything. 
Is it feasible to remove the topi mid-way during the meeting (which seems kind of awkward) or is it better to send a picture to the potential spouse’s family beforehand (which may also be problematic)?  Is there any alternative practical approach I can take.

Answer :

In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.
As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh. 
Sharīah has taken into consideration one’s personal choice in choosing a marriage partner.  An individual may get attracted to a person’s appearance which forms the basis of one’s choice in marriage.  It is not practical to live permanently with someone not having the desired appearance.  Therefore, Shariah has advised the prospective spouses to see each other prior to the Nikah.  When one does not see his/her prospective spouse, this may lead to the spouses not being satisfied with each other which will be contrary to the spirit of Nikāh being love and affection. [1] This is what is meant in the following Hadīth:
Hadhrat Mughīrah bin Shubah (Radhiyallāhu Anhu) proposed to a lady for marriage.  Nabī (Sallallāhu Alaihi Wa Sallam) advised him as follows: 
“Look at her as this is more likely to create love between the two of you.” (Sunan At-Tirmidhī, Hadīth No. 1087) [2]
It is morally incorrect for you to conceal your hair loss from your prospective wife.  You may simply inform her beforehand of your condition.  You do not have to remove your topi in the meeting.
And Allah Ta’āla Knows Best
Mawlana Abdul Azīm bin Abdur Rahman,
Student Darul Iftaa
US
Checked and Approved by,
Mufti Ebrahim Desai.
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