Question Summary:
Dealing with difficult family members

Question Detail:

For those of who have parents and family that are not practicing, it becomes extremely difficult to develop in terms of the deen, and often one feels like their family is dragging them down with them. I try to give dawah, but I can not help but get angry. I know this is wrong, But i have difficulty controling this.
What can a girl do especially? I have convinced my mom to allow me to consider someone with a beard and who is practicing after a year, alhamdulillah, but it is very hard to find such people considering I am alone and my family is not practicing.
One brother had proposed to me online, he wanted to talk to my parents, my parents did not get involved, and especially not my father, My mom insists not mentioning such things to him right from the start. I am at cross roads here, I really do not know what to do. I want to learn islam, and travel to do so, another conflict becomes mehram, my dad like i said is not practicing.
My life is miserable at times, because of the verbal attacks i go through, and when I react I am made to be the villain, I have become cynical and negative as a consequence. It has been two years, I am tired. Please help me for the sake of Allah.
 
Tired and Demotivated Sister

Answer :

As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.
 
Sister in Islam;
We understand your feelings and sentiments. No two persons are the same even though they are from the same family. Nature and temperaments are always different. This is natural and one has to bear with this.
The best attitude is sabr and patience. Contain yourself and do what is within your means. Continue making Dua to Allah for internal strength and courage. Allah is All Hearing and All Knowing. You should never be despondent and get tired. If you connect with Allah, you will never be alone. You will have great strength and support on your side.
And Allah Knows Best. 
Mufti Ebrahim Desai