Question Summary:
Can I travel without a Mahram upon my father’s insistence? Question Detail:
Two of my brothers wedding is in India in a few months time. My husband is saying if i want to go for the wedding, i should go alone .I dont want to go without mahram. My dad is insiting to come.Is it okay if i dont consider my parents feeling and dont go keeping in mind the hadith?
Answer :
In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.
As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāh wa-barakātuh.
One can understand that a father naturally wishes for his daughter to
be present at an important family event. At the same time, in a soft
and calm manner, you should explain to your father that your husband is
unable to travel with you and you cannot travel alone without a mahram.
The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) has stated, “A man should
not be in seclusion with a woman nor should a woman travel without a
mahram” [i]. When a person reflects that a woman is not allowed to
travel alone even for a virtuous and fard act such as Hajj, then it is
easy to understand that she cannot travel alone for a wedding [ii].
Alternatively, you could try to convince your husband to go with you.
However, you cannot travel without a mahram for your parents’ pleasure
at the expense of disobeying Allah Ta’ālā [iii].
Even if you are unable to attend the wedding in person, know that you
can make du’a that Allah Ta’ala blesses your brothers’ marriages and,
for that, you do not need to be present at the wedding. In fact, the
Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said, “The quickest of
supplications in terms of acceptance are those made for someone who is
not present” [iv]. Be content with the decree of Allah Ta’ālā as it
will be for your best, inshāAllah.
And Allah knows best.
Mufti Abrar Mirza
Chicago, IL (USA)
Under the Supervision of Mufti Ebrahim Desai (South Africa)
[i]
عن ابن عباس رضي الله عنهما أنه سمع النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم يقول لا
يخلون رجل بامرأة ولا تسافرن امرأة إلا ومعها محرم
(صحيح البخاري، كتاب الجهاد والسير، باب من اكتتب في جيش: 3/1094؛ ابن
كثير)
[ii]
وزوج أو محرم للمرأة إن كان بينها وبين مكة مسافة سفر ولا تحج بلا أحدهما
(ملتقى الأبحر، كتاب الحج: ص 194؛ البيروتي)
يحرم عليها السفر بغير محرم أو زوج ولا عبرة لدعوى الشوق والقلق
(الفتاوى الأسعدية، كتاب الحج: 1/51؛ الفارابي)
(فتاوى محمودية، كتاب الحج، باب اشتراط المحرم للمرأة، 10/329؛ فاروقية)
[iii]
عن علي عن النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم قال لا طاعة لمخلوق في معصية الله عز
وجل
(مسند أحمد: 2/333؛ الرسالة)
[iv]
عن عبد الله بن عمرو عن النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم قال ما دعوة أسرع إجابة
من دعوة غائب لغائب
(سنن الترمذي، كتاب البر والصلة، باب دعوة الأخ لأخيه بظهر الغيب: 4/352؛
التراث)
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