Question Summary:
If your brother in-law and husband do ghibat, that should not lead you distancing yourself from your sister

Question Detail:

If i dont feel cofertable with my brother in law and always he and my hsband talk gibat for my brother and family,so it would be a sin if i donot go to my sister hm or dont call her to my home, i m not doing kata taluq with her, every 2,3 day i talk her at phone but i doot want to go her home ,but she always angry bec of it,that why i m not going or calling her,but bec i thought it make fitna always so i dont like,now pls tell me i m right or i should go to her home,is it qata taluq if i donot go there but i hv contact with her at phone and some time when nessesery i go there but not frequently.its difficult to please everyone in life but if we donot have neeyat to hurt them but bec of some reason we can say no to some one,

Answer :

In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.
As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.
Shari’ah has emphasized on maintaining family ties. Your sister wishes for you to keep regular contact. That is because of her love for you. You should consider her feelings and request.
If your brother in-law and husband do ghibat, that should not lead you distancing yourself from your sister. You should also consider expressing your feeling of dismay to your husband about his conduct and request him with kindness to avoid making ghibat if he is doing so.
 Also remember Shaitaan whispers bad thoughts in a person and makes one believe negative things of others without any reasons.
And Allah Ta’āla Knows Best
Immad Bin Arshad
Student Darul Iftaa
California, USA
Checked and Approved by,
Mufti Ebrahim Desai.
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