Question Summary:
Dua for my family to become Muslim.

Question Detail:

 
I reverted to Islam about three years ago. But my parents and brother are still not Muslims. I have been making dua for them since then that may Allah guide them to the right path. They are very good people but they are not able to understand why I am following Islam. I am very scared of my father and am not able to tell him why Islam is right. I tried to tell my mom but it ends up in arguments. I am not very good at explaining to them. Is there any dua that I can make for them so they would follow Islam? My mom's health is not very good and am very worried. I really want them to follow Islam. Please make dua for them and let me know if there are duas and anything I can do so that my parents and my brother follow Islam.

Answer :

In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.
As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.
Brother/Sister in Islam,
We are very pleased to hear that you have accepted the beautiful and complete Deen of Islam. May Allah Taala protect your Imaan, keep steadfast on Deen and give the rest of your family that have not yet accepted Islam hidayat. Ameen.
The challenges you are facing in trying to explain the truth of this Deen to your family and the concern you have for the success of your family in the hereafter especially your mother is natural for a true believer and a sign of your Imaan. If you look back into the lives of the illustrious Sahabah (Radiallahu Anhum) you will be surprised to find out that one of those great luminaries namely Abu Hurairah (Radiallahu Anhu) was also faced with the same challenge that you are facing. Consider the following hadith:
 
حَدَّثَنِي أَبُو هُرَيْرَةَ، قَالَ كُنْتُ أَدْعُو أُمِّي إِلَى الإِسْلاَمِ وَهِيَ مُشْرِكَةٌ فَدَعَوْتُهَا يَوْمًا فَأَسْمَعَتْنِي فِي رَسُولِ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم مَا أَكْرَهُ فَأَتَيْتُ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم وَأَنَا أَبْكِي قُلْتُ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ إِنِّي كُنْتُ أَدْعُو أُمِّي إِلَى الإِسْلاَمِ فَتَأْبَى عَلَىَّ فَدَعَوْتُهَا الْيَوْمَ فَأَسْمَعَتْنِي فِيكَ مَا أَكْرَهُ فَادْعُ اللَّهَ أَنْ يَهْدِيَ أُمَّ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ فَقَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم ‏"‏ اللَّهُمَّ اهْدِ أُمَّ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ ‏"‏ ‏.‏ فَخَرَجْتُ مُسْتَبْشِرًا بِدَعْوَةِ نَبِيِّ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم فَلَمَّا جِئْتُ فَصِرْتُ إِلَى الْبَابِ فَإِذَا هُوَ مُجَافٌ فَسَمِعَتْ أُمِّي خَشْفَ قَدَمَىَّ فَقَالَتْ مَكَانَكَ يَا أَبَا هُرَيْرَةَ ‏.‏ وَسَمِعْتُ خَضْخَضَةَ الْمَاءِ قَالَ - فَاغْتَسَلَتْ وَلَبِسَتْ دِرْعَهَا وَعَجِلَتْ عَنْ خِمَارِهَا فَفَتَحَتِ الْبَابَ ثُمَّ قَالَتْ يَا أَبَا هُرَيْرَةَ أَشْهَدُ أَنْ لاَ إِلَهَ إِلاَّ اللَّهُ وَأَشْهَدُ أَنَّ مُحَمَّدًا عَبْدُهُ وَرَسُولُهُ - قَالَ - فَرَجَعْتُ إِلَى رَسُولِ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم فَأَتَيْتُهُ وَأَنَا أَبْكِي مِنَ الْفَرَحِ - قَالَ - قُلْتُ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ أَبْشِرْ قَدِ اسْتَجَابَ اللَّهُ دَعْوَتَكَ وَهَدَى أُمَّ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ ‏.‏ فَحَمِدَ اللَّهَ وَأَثْنَى عَلَيْهِ وَقَالَ خَيْرًا - قَالَ - قُلْتُ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ادْعُ اللَّهَ أَنْ يُحَبِّبَنِي أَنَا وَأُمِّي إِلَى عِبَادِهِ الْمُؤْمِنِينَ وَيُحَبِّبَهُمْ إِلَيْنَا - قَالَ - فَقَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم ‏"‏ اللَّهُمَّ حَبِّبْ عُبَيْدَكَ هَذَا - يَعْنِي أَبَا هُرَيْرَةَ وَأُمَّهُ - إِلَى عِبَادِكَ الْمُؤْمِنِينَ وَحَبِّبْ إِلَيْهِمُ الْمُؤْمِنِينَ ‏"‏ ‏.‏ فَمَا خُلِقَ مُؤْمِنٌ يَسْمَعُ بِي وَلاَ يَرَانِي إِلاَّ أَحَبَّنِي ‏.‏ 
Abu Huraira (Radiallahu Anhu) narrates: I invited my mother, who was a polytlieist, to Islam. I invited her one day and she said to me something about Allah's Messenger (Salallahu Alayhi Wasallam) which I hated. I came to Allah's Messenger (Salallahu Alayhi Wasallam) weeping and said: Allah's Messenger, I invited my mother to Islam but she did not accept (my invitation). I invited her today but she said to me something which I did not like. (Kindly) supplicate Allah that He may set the mother of Abu Huraira right. Thereupon Allah's Messenger (Salallahu Alayhi Wasallam) said: O Allah, set the mother of Abu Huraira on the right path. I came out quite pleased with the supplication of Allah's Messenger (Salallahu Alayhi Wasallam) and when I came near the door it was closed from within. My mother heard the noise of my footsteps and she said: Abu Huraira, just wait, and I heard the noiee of falling of water. She took a bath and put on the shirt and quickly covered her head with a headdress and opened the door and then said: Abu Huraira, I bear witness to the fact that there is no god but Allah and Mubammad is His bondsman and His Messenger. He (Abu Huraira) said: I went back to Allah's Messenger (Salallahu Alayhi Wasallam) and (this time) I was shedding the tears of joy. I said: Allah's Messenger, be happy, for Allah has responded to your supplication and He has set on the right path the mother of Abu Huraira. He (the Holy Prophet) praised Allah, and extolled Him and uttered good words. I said: Allah's Messenger, supplicate to Allah so that He may instil love of mine and that of my mother too in the believing servants and let our hearts be filled with their love, whereupon Allah's Messenger (Salallahu Alayhi Wasallam) said: O Allah, let there be love of these servants of yours, i. e. Abu Huraira and his mother, in the hearts of the believing servants and let their hearts be filled with the love of the believing servants. (Abu Huraira said: This prayer) was so well granted by Allah that no believer was ever born who heard of me and who saw me but did not love me. (Muslim-2491)[1]
From the above hadith it is clear that the dua the prophet of Allah (Salallahu Alayhi Wasalam) made for the mother of Abu Hurairah (Radiallahu Anhu) was) ‏( اللَّهُمَّ اهْدِ أُمَّ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ O Allah, guide the mother of Abu Huraira (Radiallahu Anhu) on the right path. Therefore, you should make the same dua for each of your family members.
Apart from making dua, also practice on each and every teaching of Islam, be an example for them and win the hearts of your family members buy showing them good character. Good character was the hallmark of Rasulullah Salallahu Alayhi Wasallams life. It is mentioned in a hadith:
عَنْ أَبِي الدَّرْدَاءِ، أَنَّ النَّبِيَّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ قَالَ: «مَا شَيْءٌ أَثْقَلُ فِي مِيزَانِ المُؤْمِنِ يَوْمَ القِيَامَةِ مِنْ خُلُقٍ حَسَنٍ، وَإِنَّ اللَّهَ لَيُبْغِضُ الفَاحِشَ البَذِيءَ
There’s nothing heavier in the scale of a Muslim on the day of judgement than good character verily Allah dislikes the foul mouthed and ill-mannered (Tirmizi 2 page 20 Qadeemi)
And Allah Ta’āla Knows Best
Ismail Dawoodjee
Student Darul Iftaa
Zambia
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Mufti Ebrahim Desai.
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(معجم الكبير لطبراني-76 المكتب الإسلامي) [1]
(مسند احمد-8259مؤسسة الرسالة)
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