Question Summary: What should a wife do if the husband does not take her with him to the new place he is currently living? Question Detail:
My husband stays away from since he got a new job in a different place.But he wants me to stay with his parents and serve them.On my repeated requesting he is not agreeing to take me along.I have a kid of 3 months.My mother in law and me are not on good terms.Please help me in light of holy Quran and ahadees
Answer :
In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful. As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh. It is the responsibility of your husband to take you along with him and keep you with him in the new place he is currently living. If he is unable to take you along with him, he needs to make arrangements for your living while he is away. You are not obliged to live with your in-laws. It is your right that your husband provides you a separate place where you may have your own privacy away from your in-laws. If your husband is not fulfilling your rights by taking you along with him or providing you a separate place of privacy, then you may consider the following options:
Make sabr. Inshallah the fruits of sabr will yield positive results. Together with sabr, make dua to Allah to change the attitude of your mother in-law. If you also make some adjustments, it will help and bring you peace and happiness.
If the matter is so bad that you cannot make sabr and staying with your in-laws is aggravating the issue, then you should discuss the issue with your husband and make him understand. You may also consider confiding in someone your husband has confidence in so that he could explain your predicament to your husband.
And Allah Ta’āla Knows Best Abdul Hannan Nizami, Student Darul Iftaa Chicago, USA Checked and Approved by, Mufti Ebrahim Desai.
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