Question Summary:
we want to make us halaal so we can improve our deen …we dnt know how to ask our parents if we can nikkah with our parents still supporting us as usual. afraid they wil not accept our wishes. how do i approach our parents?

Question Detail:

alsalamu alaikum mufti. i am having relation with a girl. i am 20 and she is 17.we are not physical n i'm aware that this is stil haraam.  our parents know we hav relations. we want to make us halaal so we can improve our deen and prevent ziena. we are both are students. we dnt know how to ask our parents if we can nikkah with our parents still supporting us as usual. afraid they wil not accept our wishes. how do i approach our parents? could you also giv me sum proof  i can remind them not to delay nikkah and that u dnt need cash to marry because todays parents think that u have to be able to afford (money) to get married.ann to make that their hearts see that we have to marry and let us marry.

Answer :

In the name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful
Assalaamu `alaykum waRahmatullahi Wabarakatoh
It is the husband’s responsibility to support his wife. He has to provide her shelter, food and clothing. The husband must have the financial means to fulfill his responsibility. If you are nineteen and you don’t have the financial means to support the woman you marry, how will you fulfill this obligation? Your parents are not obligated to support you and the woman you marry. In principal, if you cannot marry and you will be violating the rights of the woman you marry, then you should exercise restraint and control your desires by fasting.
And Allah knows best
Wassalam
Mufti Ebrahim Desai
Darul Iftaa, Madrassah In'aamiyyah