Question Summary:
Non-Muslim Funerals & Wedding Ceremonies

Question Detail:

My question is in regards to funerals and weddings. 1) is it permissible for a muslim husband to attend his non muslim wife's funeral? 2) Is it permissible for a muslim to attend a non muslims wedding ceremony, specifically a Chrsitian wedding.

Answer :

In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.
As-salamu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullahi wa-barakatuh.
As Muslims, we are bound to follow and abide by the commandments of Allah whether we understand the logic and wisdom behind the laws of Allah or not. Hence, we are completely subservient to Allah.
In reference to your query, if a Muslim man marries a woman from the Ahle-e-Kitaab (the people of the book) and she passes away, as a husband he shared a special bond with his wife. This will be more intense if she had children with him. If such a wife passes away, the husband himself will be grieved and will require moral support.
This becomes a complex issue as it is a combination of emotional feelings and religious obligations. If by attendance, you refer to being present in such a situation, then it is understood. However, one should avoid the actual funeral ceremony where words and actions of Kufr and Shirk takes place. As Muslims, we take seriously to our beliefs and guard our feelings and emotions that will lead us to compromising our beliefs.[1]
It is not permissible to attend a Christian wedding ceremony as it entails non-Islamic customs and practices which are detrimental to ones Imaan.  
And Allah Ta’ala Knows Best
Ismaeel Bassa
Student Darul Iftaa
Durban South Africa
Checked and Approved by,
Mufti Ebrahim Desai.
www.daruliftaa.net