Question Summary:
Calling she by he

Question Detail:

 in our custom we denote womens by he not by she as to give them respect is it permisible?

Answer :

In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.
As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.
A male should be addressed and referred to as a male and a female should be addressed or referred to as a female. It is incorrect to refer to a female as a male.
The custom you refer to is against nature[1] and should be corrected.
 
And Allah Ta’āla Knows Best
Arshad Ali
Student Darul Iftaa
Trinidad
Checked and Approved by,
Mufti Ebrahim Desai.
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