Question Summary: How do I get rid of my depression? Question Detail:
I am a software engineer and belong to India, working in the IT industry from more than 8 year. I am writing this by keeping tears in my eyes. My English communication is weak and not able to explain my technical details to my teammate and client. I am good in my technology I am working on but my communication is very poor and due to which I fails to express my view to team mates and client Apart from office, Even with my mothertoung language (hindi) I fail to express my view in proper way, cannot express the views or any incident or news in proper and in well manner. With my experience, my designation should be Project lead or tech lead but due to my communication skills and lack of courage and confident I am working as software developer. In my team who has experience equal to me or less than me are my project lead/team lead and I have to report them and work under them. I feel every ashamed to work under them, they will treat me as a duffer. When I see my face on mirror I hate myself, One more thing I would like to height light is I always afraid of my client and my leads and also when there is some meeting with client or team , I don’t know what happens to me ( Jab bhi koi disucssion ya kaam ke baar me baat hoti hai to mai bahut ghabra jata hu pata nahi ) How should I proceed my career, if such situation continues then day by day my life will become horrible? Please suggest me to overcome over the afraid, lack of courage, lack of communication, lack of knowledge, etc. Please provide me some wazifa, duva that should help me to overcome.
Answer :
In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful. As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh. A human being is an embodiment of great skills as well as weaknesses. While we explore and excel with our hidden talents and skills, we realize our shortcomings through our weaknesses. If we only focus on our skills and intelligence, that could lead to pride and arrogance. Likewise, if we focus only on our weaknesses, that leads to grief and depression. We should adopt a balanced approach.[1] Appreciate your skills and enhance it to reach a higher level. At the same time, use the weakness as a means of creating humility in yourself. Thank Allah for the great skills you have in technology. As you grow in life and have more experience and confidence, you will improve on your communication skills. Be patient and stay positive. [2] The positive attitude will lead you to achieve your goal. Allah Subhanahu wa Ta`ala states in the Qur`an: إِنَّ اللَّهَ مَعَ الصَّابِرِينَ “Verily, Allah is with those who are patient”.[3] When you are patient and persevere to excel, Allah will make you achieve your goal. You may read the following dua to overcome your difficulty: رَبِّ اشْرَحْ لِي صَدْرِي ٓ وَيَسِّرْ لِي أَمْرِي ٓ وَاحْلُلْ عُقْدَةً مِنْ لِسَانِي ٓ يَفْقَهُوا قَوْلِي Oh my Lord! Open my chest [i.e. remove fear from it, or fill it with Your Light]. And ease my task for me. Remove the impediment from my speech so that they may understand what I say.[4] And Allah Ta’āla Knows Best AbdulMannan Nizami Student Darul Iftaa Chicago, USA Checked and Approved by, Mufti Ebrahim Desai. www.daruliftaa.net
[1] إذا نظر أحدكم إلى من فضل عليه في المال والخلق، فلينظر إلى من هو أسفل منه ممن فضل عليه [صحيح مسلم، كتاب الزهد والرقائق، ج٤، ص٢٢٧٥، دار احياء التراث]
[2] قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم: «عجبا لأمر المؤمن، إن أمره كله خير، وليس ذاك لأحد إلا للمؤمن، إن أصابته سراء شكر، فكان خيرا له، وإن أصابته ضراء، صبر فكان خيرا له» [صحيح مسلم، كتاب الزهد والرقائق، باب المؤمن امره كله خير]
[3] القرآن، سورة البقرة، ٢:١٥٣
[4] [القرآن، سورة طه، ٢٥-٢٧]
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