Question Summary:
Unable to get married because of Sihr

Question Detail:

I'm a 30 year old muslim woman that has never been married. I have had lots of men come and ask for my hand and I still do until today.  when my family and I decied on a suitable man that is a good muslim, things tend to fall apart for no reason. This has happened 4 times and basically every men I have been interested in. I don't understand why. I am a good person and I pray and try to be the best muslim I can be. My family is very religious and my mom prays on the house everyday. 
I have had friends tell my that they think someone has put the evil eye/sihir on me and I have a feeling that is true. Are there any signs I should look for to find out if I do have the evil eye on me? What do I do? Do I have a shakh pray on me? Please help me understand. 

Answer :

In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.
As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.


In modern times, the criteria for selecting a marriage partner tends to focus mainly on materialistic traits such as: wealth, beauty, social rank, character, etc. The Holy Quran, however, enjoins Muslims to select partners who are good and pure.
The Muslim woman who understands the teachings of her religion has wise and correct standards when it comes to choosing a husband. She does not concern herself just with good looks, high status, a luxurious lifestyle or any of the other things that usually attract women. She looks into his level of religious commitment and his attitude and behaviour, because these are the pillars of a successful marriage, and the best features of a husband. Islamic teaching indicates the importance of these qualities in a potential husband.
The reality is, however, that good moral conduct and Deen are the very characteristics that will hold a marriage together in good times and bad. For example, if a man knows his religion he will abide by the rules of Almighty Allah when it comes to his spouse, and would refrain from displeasing Almighty Allah in that regard as well. From this we see how important these characteristics are for a successful, healthy marriage which is pleasing to Almighty Allah.
We are very saddened about your situation that your proposal always spaced out. Almighty Allah is Most Bountiful and Most Merciful, He knows what is best for all of us.
Almighty Allah states;
وَعَسَى أَن تَكْرَهُواْ شَيْئًا وَهُوَ خَيْرٌ لَّكُمْ وَعَسَى أَن تُحِبُّواْ شَيْئًا وَهُوَ شَرٌّ لَّكُمْ وَاللَّهُ يَعْلَمُ وَأَنتُمْ لاَ تَعْلَمُونَ
“And it may be that you dislike a thing which is good for you and that you like a thing which is bad for you. Allah knows but you do not know”.
Almighty Allah has better knowledge than us, of how things will turn out to be in the end, and of what benefits us in this earthly life and the Hereafter. Hence, keep obey Him and adhere to His commands, so that you may acquire the true guidance.
In future if you do find a suitable partner for yourself, take resolution by making Istikharah. Undoubtedly Almighty Allah will impart you with the appropriate guidance. The following the duas are useful and should be recited as much as you can:-
 
 Nabī (Sallallaahu ‘alayhi wasalam) has taught us a Du’ā to be protected from the evil of the eye. The Du’ā is as follows:
أعوذ بكلمات الله التامة من كل شيطان وهامة ومن كل عين لامة
‘I seek refuge for you two with Allaah’s perfect words from every Shaytaan (devil) and poisonous creature and every evil eye.’ 
(Hisnul Muslim,Pg. 140, Adwaaul Bayān.edited)
(Qurtubi Vol.9, Pg. 231, Dārul Hadith) .
اعوذ بكلمات الله التامات من شر ما خلق
I seek refuge in the perfect words of Allah Ta`ala from the evil of what he has created. 
(Fathul Bāri, Pg.165. Vol. 10, Daru ihyā al Turāth)
 
And Allah Ta’āla Knows Best
Mohammad Ashhad Bin Saeed
Mauritius
 
Checked and Approved by,
Mufti Ebrahim Desai.