Question Summary:
Advice For A Friend’s Marriage

Question Detail:

I want to take some advice for my friend. It’s about marriage his marriage.He is studying in a foreign country and there he came across a Muslimah which he feels is a perfect choice for him. He did Istikhara and found some positive signs and then decided to proceed. Initially everything was going fine step by step but now some troubles start coming in his way.First he has taken help of Muslim community there to enquire about the consent of sister and Alhamdulillah she also liked him and told that her parents also like him.
 
Then he visited his country and talked with his parents and convinced them Alhamdulillah. His direction was clear. According to him, the next step then should be go for nikkah as both parties showed their willingness. But when he came back and talked about nikkah with the sister then she is saying that her family is feeling insecure as he is a student and there is no surety at this time. Further the sister doesn’t want to go to another country as she said that if she will go then her parents will become alone.
 
The brother agrees to find a job after his education in the same country and currently he is on scholarship. But what the main objection arising from her family is that if he stays there and keeps on extending his visa then one day he will be back ultimately. But how can he give surety for his whole life? The provision of a person is decided by Allah, he don’t know where life will take him in future. He can just show his willingness and his short term plans at now but all these subject to the will of Allah. The sister never told him that she dislike him and always said that he is perfect for her.
Please suggest how to deal with this situation.

Answer :

In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.
As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.
There is nothing more your friend can do. He likes the girl and wishes to marry her. He is also willing to submit to her will to migrate to her country of residence. Now it is up to the girl and her family to decide. Obviously they are worried about the security of their daughter.
Allah is Allamul Ghuyub. Only He knows the future and what is best for any person. The girl and her family should make Istikhara and seek Allah’s guidance on making the appropriate decision. The issue of the visa is not the only unknown factors of insecurity. There would be much more issues than the visa issue- health, income, attitude etc. These issues are only known to Allah. Your friend may advise the girl’s family to make Istikhara and make a decision after that.
And Allah knows best,
Mufti Ebrahim Desai