Question Summary:
Can A Muslim Man Have a intimacy with a girl before marriage to show her that he love her.If NO can He Kiss her.And If no can he talk to her about the marriage and can he say that I LOVE YOU.

Question Detail:

(1)Can A Muslim Man Have a sex with a girl before marriage to show her that he love her.If NO can He Kiss her.And If no can he talk to her about the marriage and can he say that I LOVE YOU.

Answer :

In the name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful
Assalaamu `alaykum waRahmatullahi Wabarakatoh
Every form of pre-marital contact with ones future spouse is haraam. It is not even permissible to talk with a person of the opposite gender if the person is not a mahram, for example, father, mother, brother, sister etc. These are such people with whom marriage is permanently prohibited (mahram).
To have any contact with any other person of the opposite gender besides a mahram opens the door for evil and immoral relationship. Shariah prohibited zina and everything that leads to zina. That includes kissing, talking, directly and indirectly through the telephone and other forms of modern communication, sms texts and computer chatrooms.
It should also be pointed out that many girls have become victims of abuse under the false pretext of love and marriage. Men hungry for fulfilling their desires offer superficial love to woman and after ‘using’ them literally dump them.
In the shariah approach of all doors closed until marriage is a safeguard for abuse of women.
If one claims to love a woman, prove in within the context of marriage and commitment.
And Allah Ta'ala Knows Best


Wassalam


Mufti Ebrahim Desai
Darul Iftaa, Madrassah In'aamiyyah