Question Summary:
I am involved in a haram relationship, how can I terminate it?

Question Detail:

Assalamu aleykum,

Answer :

In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, The Most Merciful.

As-salaamu `alaykum wa-ramatullahi wa-barakatuh.

Sister in Islam,

At the outset, you should understand that a haram act always has negative consequences. It is haram for you to be in contact with the boy. Both of you are feeding each other’s desires and emotions with haram. You state the boy is nice. What is your criteria of nice? One cannot judge the niceness of a person just through a haram contact. The reaction of a haram contact is artificial and superficial. It is not true. Do not be duped by such an artificial conduct. Many young girls get caught up in such superficial relationships and are merely used and dumped. Later on this has devastating consequences of grief, anxiety and depression. Maintain your respect, dignity and honour and severe the haram relationship. The boy should be advised that the relationship is haram and you wish to stay away from haram. In this conduct, the boy will have respect for you.

You should consider putting the love of Allah above the feelings of the boy. Allah is our Creator. He deserves obedience. How can you give preference to the feelings of the boy and disobey Allah?

Do you love the boy more than Allah! If the boy wishes to marry you, he will propose for you. Your conduct will also serve to teach him a lesson to abstain from haram.

And Allah Ta`ala Knows Best.

Hussein Muhammad.

Student Darul Iftaa

Arusha, Tanzania

Checked and Approved by:

Mufti Ebrahim Desai.