Question Summary:
How do I make taubah for inappropriate touching?

Question Detail:

i want to confess i comiited a sin i touched my cousin sister breast and my aunt breast its about 1 year ago . and i am vary sad how do i repent and should i tell both them a truth what i did with her?i cant control i lost my temper i became the worst animal . crying alot....

Answer :

In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.

As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.

Your feeling of sadness for the major sin you committed is a sign of your Iman. Allah says in the Quran:

إِنَّ رَبَّكَ سَرِيعُ الْعِقَابِ وَإِنَّهُ لَغَفُورٌ رَحِيمٌ  

“Indeed, your Lord is swift in penalty; but indeed, He is Forgiving and Merciful.” (6:165)

There are three conditions for sincere tawbah.

1)    Feel deep remorse for committing the sin

2)    Turn to Allah in sincere repentance

3)    Make an intention to never commit that sin in the future

Turn to Allah in sincere repentance and make a firm resolve to never do such an action again. Also, keep in mind that the laws of hijab must be observed with your cousin sister as well as your aunt (if she is your uncle’s wife). The laws of hijab are meant to respect the honour and chastity of women and deter men from immoral advances. You should put yourself under the tutelage of a spiritual guide so that you can learn to control your base desires and build a strong connection with Allah.

You can refer to the discourses by Mufti Ebrahim Desai Sahib for more advices.

And Allah Ta’āla Knows Best

Shibly bin Mizan

Student Darul Iftaa
Toronto,Canada

Checked and Approved by,

Mufti Ebrahim Desai