Question Summary:
Permanent child custody

Question Detail:

I have been divorced for three years now. My divorce was caused by my husband having an extramarital affair, then making tawba and marrying the sister. He also failed to provide sustenance for the duration of our marriage, and has provided only $40 every three months for the care of his two children ever since. I used to take them for visits, but he moved, and hasn't returned to visit them in five months. He also neglects to call them more than once every few months. Do I have a right to file for full, permanent custody so that he doesn't show up and take them one day? The law in America doesn't protect me to keep them unless there is a custody order in place, and I know he's proven to have erratic, irresponsible behavior. Please let me know if this is within my haqq to protect my family.

Answer :

In the Name of Allāh, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.
As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.
We sympathize with your situation and understand your predicament. It is indeed sad to note that you had to face such tragic circumstances during and after your marriage along with the irresponsible behaviour of your husband. May Allāh Ta‘āla grant you ease in all of your matters.
According to Shar’iah, the mother has the right of custody of her female child from birth until puberty. The father has the right of custody from puberty until marriage. With regards to a male child, the mother has the right of custody from birth until the age of seven while the father has the right of custody from age seven until puberty.^[1]
In your case, it appears your children are within the age of your right of custody. Accordingly, you may legally confirm your right of custody. If your children are beyond the right of custody for you, even in that case, the father’s conduct is apparently against the interest of the children. As such, you may still claim custody as that is in the interest of your children.[2] If the father wishes to visit his children, he will have the right to do so.
 
 
 
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Fahad Abdul Wahab
Student Darul Iftaa
USA
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Mufti Ebrahim Desai                                                                                                                                                                                                                
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